Yintoni Into Enge Nayo Umdla
Ukusukelwa ephupheni yenye yezona zinto zisisiseko nezibangela unxunguphalo ezenziwa yingqondo eleleyo. Intliziyo yakho iyabetha, imilenze yakho iziva inzima okanye icotha ngokungenakwenzeka, kwaye osukelayo — nokuba ngumntu, isilwanyana, umzobo onethunzi, okanye ubukho obungenagama — akaze akubambe kodwa akaze asale ngasemva naye. Iphupha lokusukelwa alikho malunga nosukelayo. Imalunga nento obaleka kuyo ebomini bakho obuphaphileyo. Isazisi sosukelayo sihlala sibambe isitshixo: umntu owaziwayo ucebisa ungquzulwano olungasonjululwanga naloo mntu; isilwanyana sikhomba kuloyiko lwemvelo okanye iminqweno ecinezelweyo; ithunzi elingenabuso limele inkalo yakho oyikhabbileyo. Indawo ibaluleke nabo. Ukusukelwa kwizitalato eziqhelekileyo kuthetha ukuba isoyikiso sifakwe kwinyani yakho yemihla ngemihla. Ukusukelwa kwindawo engaziwayo kucebisa ukuba unxunguphalo lumalunga nendawo engaqhelekanga onyanzelwa ukuba ungene kuyo. Ubume beemvakalelo bokusukelwa — uloyiko, unxunguphalo, ukudinwa, ukuchasa — kumephu ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela onamava ngayo nantoni na oyiphephayo kwiiyure zakho eziphaphileyo. Uninzi lwabantu aluzange lujike emva kwamaphupha okusukelwa kuba ipatheni yokuphepha igxininiswe kakhulu kangangokuba nasebuthongweni, ukujongana kuziva kungenakwenzeka.
Izinto Ezithandwayo
- Ukusukelwa ngumntu ongamaziyo okanye umntu onxibe imaski kumele indawo engavunywanga yakho — umnqweno, uloyiko, amandla, okanye inyaniso — owalayo ukujongana nayo. Imaski okanye ukungaziwa kubonisa ukuba awukachongi ukuba yintoni le nkalo. Iphupha liyaphindaphinda kuba indawo ekhatyiweyo ayiyeki ukubakho ngenxa yokuba wala ukuyijonga. Iya kuqhubeka ikusukela ude ujike.
- Ukusukelwa sisilwanyana kunxibelelanisa nendalo yakho yemvelo. Ingcuka okanye ixhoba licebisa ubundlobongela obucinezelweyo okanye ukuzithemba okufuna ukuvakaliswa. Inyoka ibonisa uloyiko olufihlakeleyo okanye amandla oguquko owachasayo. Izinambuzane okanye imihlambi ikhomba kunxunguphalo oluninzi oluncinci oluqokelelanayo lube sisisoyikiso esikhulu esidibeneyo. Isilwanyana esithile sithwala ubunzima baso bophawu umfundi wemimoya anokubucacisa.
- Ukusukelwa kodwa imilenze yakho ayishukumi — imvakalelo eqhelekileyo yemilenze enzima — ityhila ukuba uyazi into ekufuneka uyenzile malunga nemeko oyiphephayo, kodwa uziva ukhubazekile luloyiko, uxanduva, okanye ukuzithandabuza. Ukungashukumi asikokwasemzimbeni; kukhubazeko lweemvakalelo lomntu obona indlela yokuphuma kodwa angakwazi ukuzisa ukuba ahambe kuyo.
- Ukusukelwa kwaye ufumane indawo yokuzimela esebenzayo okwethutyana kubonisa ukuba isicwangciso sakho sokumelana — ukuphepha, ukukhaba, ukuphazamiseka, ukusebenza kakhulu — sisasebenza, kodwa iphupha likulumkisa ukuba indawo yokuzimela inomhla wokuphelelwa. Nantoni na oyiphephayo iya kukufumana ekugqibeleni. Isiqabu sethutyana ephupheni sibonisa isiqabu sethutyana iindlela zakho zokumelana ezinika zona.
- Ukujika ujonge osukelayo kwaye ukusukelwa kuphele yenye yezona zisombululo zamaphupha ezinamandla. Xa isenzeka ngokuzenzekelayo, ibonisa ukuba usondela ekulungeleni ukujongana nanto nayiphi na into obuyiphepha. Abanye abaphuphi baxela ukuba osukelayo uyancipha, uyaguquka, okanye uyanyibilika xa ejongiwe — kutyhila ukuba into eyoyikwayo yayixhaswa ngokupheleleyo sisenzo sokubaleka kuyo.
Into Enokhuthaza Iqhosha
Umfundi wemimoya unokuchonga imeko ethile yobomi, ubudlelwane, okanye ungquzulwano lwangaphakathi oludala amaphupha akho okusukelwa ngokuchaneka okungafane kufunyanwe kukuzihlola. Bafunda uphawu lwamandla losukelayo kwaye banokukuxelela ukuba ubaleka amandla omntu, ubuwena obumnyama, ityala le-karmic, okanye ubizo lokomoya obuluchasa. Kumaphupha okusukelwa aphindaphindayo kwiminyaka emininzi, isangoma sinokulandelela ipatheni kwimvelaphi yayo — enokuba phambi kobomi bakho bangoku — kwaye sityhile into ekufuneka kujongwane nayo ukuze ukusukelwa kuphele ekugqibeleni.
Yintoni Okufuneka Wenze Ngoku
Ngexesha elizayo xa ufumana iphupha lokusukelwa, bhala phantsi zonke iinkcukacha malunga nosukelayo: imilo, isantya, isandi, umgangatho weemvakalelo. Emva koko yenza uluhlu lwento yonke ebomini bakho obuphaphileyo obuyiphephayo, obuyihlehlisayo, okanye owalayo ukuyilungisa. Khangela ukuhambelana kweemvakalelo phakathi kosukelayo ephupheni kunye nemeko yehlabathi lokwenene. Umfundi wemimoya wamaphupha kwi-intanethi unokuqinisekisa okanye abuyisele utoliko lwakho kwaye anike isikhokelo sendlela yokujika kwaye ujonge into ekusukelayo ngokukhuselekileyo nangokunemveliso.