Yintoni Into Enge Nayo Umdla
Ukwisixeko ekufuneka usazi kodwa izitalato zizihlelile ngokutsha. Ukwisakhiwo esineepaseji eziphindaphindayo njengoko uhamba. Ukwihlathi elingenandlela kwaye ungenayo ingqiqo yecala. I-GPS kwifowuni yakho ayibonisi nto. Akukho mntu umbuzayo onokukunceda. Indawo ekufuneka ufikelele kuyo iziva ingxamisekile kodwa awukwazi ukuyifumana, kwaye okukhona ukhangela kokukhona ubhideka ngakumbi. Ukulahleka ephupheni kubonisa imeko yokubhidaniseka ebomini bakho obuphaphileyo — kodwa hayi nakanjani ukubhidaniseka ngokwejografi. La maphupha avela xa ulahlekelwe yingqiqo yakho yenjongo, icala, okanye isazisi. Unokuba kwisiphambuka somsebenzi wakho kwaye ungaqinisekanga ngokwenene ukuba yeyiphi indlela omawuyithathe. Unokuba kubudlelwane obukade bukunika ingqiqo yekhaya kodwa ngoku buziva bungaqhelekanga. Unokuba uhamba kutshintsho lokomoya oludilize umbono wakho wehlabathi omdala ngaphandle kokubonelela ngendawo entsha. Indawo ethile apho ulahleke khona inika ulwazi olongezelelweyo. Ukulahleka kwindawo eqhelekileyo — indawo yakho, ikhaya lakho lebuntwana — kucebisa ukuba into obucinga ukuba uyayiqonda malunga nawe okanye ubomi bakho ayisabonakali. Ukulahleka kwindawo engaziwayo ngokupheleleyo kubonisa ukuba uhamba kwindawo engenamzekelo kumava akho kwaye awunayo imephu yengqondo yokukukhokela.
Izinto Ezithandwayo
- Ukulahleka kwisakhiwo esikhulu, esinjenge-maze — isibhedlele, isikolo, isakhiwo see-ofisi — kudla ngokubonisa ukubhidaniseka kweziko okanye kwenkqubo. Uziva uvaleleke kwisakhiwo (umsebenzi, inkqubo yezomthetho, inkqubo yezempilo, indlela yemfundo) ongene kuyo ngokuzithandela kodwa ongasakwazi ukuhamba kuyo ngokufanelekileyo. Yonke iminyango ikhokelela kwenye ipaseji kunokuba ikhokelele kwindlela yokuphuma.
- Ukulahleka kwindawo yendalo — ihlathi, intlango, iintaba — kunxibelelanisa nohlobo olukhulu lokubhidaniseka kokubakho. Indalo emaphupheni imele iinkalo zobomi eziphilayo, ezingacwangciswanga ezingenakolawulwa ngocwangciso. Ungene kwisigaba sobomi esiduna ukunikezela nengqiqo kunokuba isicwangciso, kwaye ingqondo yakho enengqiqo iyachasa.
- Ukulahleka ngelixa uzama ukufikelela kwindawo ethile — isikhululo seenqwelo-moya, intlanganiso, umtshato — phantsi koxinzelelo lwexesha kongeza ungxamiseko kwaye kucebisa ukuba uziva usala ngasemva ebomini. Indawo emele inqanaba okanye ulindelo okholelwa ukuba bekufanele ukuba ufikelele kulo ngoku, kwaye ukungakwazi ukufumana indlela yakho apho kubonisa uloyiko olunzulu lokuba uphulukana nethuba lakho.
- Ukulahleka kwaye ungakwazi ukucela izikhokelo kuba akukho mntu uthetha ulwimi lwakho okanye akukho mntu unokukubona kukhoma ekuzihlaleleni nasekuphukeni konxibelelwano. Uziva ukuba abantu abakungqongileyo abakwazi ukuwaqonda amava akho okanye ube ngongabonakaliyo ebomini bakho. Le nguqulelo ihlala ivela ngamaxesha obulolo, ukufuduswa kwenkcubeko, okanye emva kwelahleko abanye abaqhubekileyo kuyo ngelixa wena ungakwenzi oko.
- Ukulahleka kodwa uzive uzolile kunokuba ube nexhala yinguqulelo enqabileyo kodwa ebalulekileyo. Icebisa ukuba ngelixa ungazi ngoku ukuba ubomi bakho buya phi, uphuhlisa ukuthembela kwinkqubo yokungazi. Eli phupha lihlala liphawula inqanaba lokukhula ngokomoya — utshintsho ekufuneni isiqinisekiso ukuya ekubeni nako ukunyamezela ukungaqiniseki.
Into Enokhuthaza Iqhosha
Umfundi wemimoya unokuchonga indawo ethile yobomi apho ukubhidaniseka kwakho kuvela khona — engasoloko iyileyo ubuya kuyithekelela. Abantu abaninzi abaziva balahlekile ngokomsebenzi ngokwenene balahlekile ngokomoya, kwaye ngokufanayo. Iphupha linokuba liqaqambisa ukubhidaniseka ongakakuvumi ngokusebenzayo. Isangoma sinokufunda nokuba iphupha lokulahleka lisisiganeko sethutyana sokwenza inkqubo okanye liyinxalenye yepatheni yomphefumlo ende — abanye imiphefumlo i-incarnate nethim ethile yokukhangela ethatha ubomi obuninzi, kwaye ukuqonda le patheni kubuyisela iphupha kwingxaki emayisombululwe libe luhambo olumayihlonitshwe.
Yintoni Okufuneka Wenze Ngoku
Emva kwephupha lokulahleka, chasa umnqweno wokunyanzelisa kwangoko icala ebomini bakho obuphaphileyo. Kunoko, hlala nombuzo ophakanyiswa liphupha: phi ebomini bam apho ndingazi khona ngokwenene ukuba ndiya phi? Bhala phantsi iindawo zokungaqiniseki ngaphandle kokuzama ukuzisombulula. Emva koko zisa olu luhlu lonyanisekileyo kufundo lwemimoya kwi-intanethi. Ingcali yotoliko lwamaphupha inokubeka imephu yephupha lakho kwimeko yakho yobomi yokwenene kwaye ikuncede wahlule phakathi kokulahleka kuba ukwindlela ephosakeleyo nokulahleka kuba uphakathi kweendlela — iimeko ezimbini ezikhangeleka zifana kodwa zifuna iimpendulo ezahluke kakhulu.