Yintoni Into Enge Nayo Umdla
Uhleli kwigumbi lovavanyo. Iphepha libekwe phambi kwakho. Uyivula kwaye uqonde ukuba akwazi nto — uphoswe yiyo yonke imifundiso, utsibe incwadi yokufunda, ulibale ukuba uvavanyo lwalunanamhlanje. Uloyiko luhlasela umzimba wakho. Iwotshi iyabetha. Wonke umntu okungqongileyo ubhala ngokuzithemba ngelixa ujonga imibuzo enokuba ibhalwe ngolwimi lwasemzini. Eli phupha liqhubeka amashumi eminyaka emva kokuba imfundo esesikweni iphelile. Abantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amathandathu abathatha umhlala-phantsi kwiminyaka eyadlulayo basaxela amaphupha okuxhalaba kovavanyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Iphupha alinanto yakwenza nesikolo. Lisebenzisa indawo yeklasi kuba yeyona ndlela ifikelelekayo kwindalo iphela yokuvavanywa, ukugwetywa, nokufunyanwa unganelanga. Iphupha lovavanyo livela xa uziva ungazilungiselelanga umngeni ebomini bakho bokwenyani — udliwanondlebe lomsebenzi, incoko enzima, ukubalwa kwezimali, inkxalabo yezempilo — kwaye urhanele ukuba xa ixesha lokubalwa lifika, uya kutyhilwa njengongenakukwazi. Ngaphantsi koloyiko lwenqanaba eliphezulu malunga novavanyo ngokwalo kukho uloyiko olunzulu: ukukholelwa ukuba awulunganga ngokwenene kwaye ekugqibeleni wonke umntu uya kukufumanisa oku. Iphupha lovavanyo yinguqulelo yengqondo ye-imposter syndrome, eyenziwe ngamandla eemvakalelo anokuveliswa ngamaphupha kuphela.
Izinto Ezithandwayo
- Ukufika emva kwexesha kuvavanyo nokufumana igumbi liphantse lingenanto, nexesha liphelile, kugxininisa uluvo lokuba uchithe ithuba lakho. Ubenalo ithuba elifanayo nabo bonke abanye kwaye ulichithile ngokulibazisa, ukuphazamiseka, okanye izinto eziphambili ezingalunganga. Le nguqulelo ixhaphakile ngamaxesha apho uziva ukuba abanye baya phambili ngelixa wena uhleli ubambekile.
- Ukuthatha uvavanyo kodwa imibuzo iqhubeka itshintsha okanye iphepha libhalwe ngeskripthi esingafundekiyo kumele imeko ebomini bakho bokwenyani apho imithetho iqhubeka itshintsha. Uzilungiselele umngeni omnye kwaye omnye ohlukeneyo uvelile. Awunakupumelela kuba imigaqo yempumelelo ayizinzanga, ayicacanga, okanye itshintshwa ngomnye umntu. Eli phupha likhomba kwiindawo — iindawo zokusebenza, ubudlelwane, iinkqubo zentsapho — apho iinjongo zihamba rhoqo.
- Ukuyazi imathiriyeli kodwa ungakwazi ukubhala — ipeni ayisebenzi, isandla sakho sikhubazekile, iphepha leempendulo liqhubeka livuthelwa — kubonisa ukuba unalo ulwazi kunye nokukwazi kodwa kukho into ethintela ukuba ubonise oko. Umqobo asikokungakwazi kodwa ngumqobo wangaphandle okanye wangaphakathi: uloyiko lokusebenza, indawo enobutshaba, ukuzijongela phantsi, okanye inkqubo engakuvumeli ukuba ubonise oko unokukwenza ngokwenene.
- Ukufumanisa ukuba ubhaliswe kwiklasi ongazange waya kuyo kwaye kufuneka uphumelele uvavanyo lwayo lokugqibela kubonisa uxanduva olulibaleleyo okanye oluphephileyo olufikelele kumhla wokugqibela. Oku kunokuba luxanduva lwezimali, incoko yobudlelwane obuyihlehlisayo, idinga lezempilo obulirhoxisayo, okanye imfuneko yophuhliso lobungcali obuyityeshelayo.
- Ukuphumelela uvavanyo ngokulula nangona ungazange wafunda liphupha lokuzaliseka kweminqweno elivela xa uza kujongana nomngeni oya kujika ube lula kunokuba ubusoyika. Ingqondo yakho engaphantsi, ebeyicubungula ulwazi ingqondo yakho eyaziwayo ebeyiphosile, ikuxelela ukuba uzilungiselele ngaphezu kokuba ucinga. Yithembe.
Into Enokhuthaza Iqhosha
Umfundi we-psychic uhamba ngaphantsi koloyiko lwamaphupha ovavanyo ukuchonga uvavanyo oluthile lwehlabathi lokwenyani ingqondo yakho eyicubungulayo. Rhoqo, iphupha alimalunga nomngeni ocacileyo ozayo kodwa malunga nendawo yokuvavanya enzulu, engaziwayo — uvavanyo lwemphefumlo lwezinto ozixabisayo, imfezeko, okanye indlela yobomi. I-psychic inokutyhila nokuba ipateni yephupha lovavanyo inxulumene namava obomi obudlulileyo ngokugwetywa, ukuthotywa esidlangalaleni, okanye ukusilela okushiya uphawu olunzulu kwimvakalelo yemphefumlo yakho yokufaneleka. Ukuphilisa inxeba lobomi obudlulileyo kudla ngokuphelisa iphupha eliphindaphindayo ngokupheleleyo.
Yintoni Okufuneka Wenze Ngoku
Xa iphupha lovavanyo liphindaphindeka, kufanelekile ukulithatha ngokungathí sína njengomqondiso endaweni yokulilahla njengoloyiko lwesikolo olushiyekileyo. Yenza uluhlu lwayo yonke indawo ebomini bakho bokwenyani apho uziva uvavanywa, uthelekiswa, okanye usengozini yokutyhilwa njengongenelanga. Chonga leyo iphethe umthwalo omkhulu weemvakalelo. Emva koko zisa oku kumtoliki wamaphupha we-psychic we-intanethi onokuqinisekisa umthombo oyinyani wephupha kwaye anike isikhokelo sendlela yokujongana novavanyo lwehlabathi lokwenyani ngokuzithemba endaweni yoloyiko — kubandakanya ukujongana naziphi na iipateni zobomi obudlulileyo zokugwetywa ezinokuba zandisa uloyiko lwakho lwangoku.