Impilo ehluth' ekunokwazi ukuhlala nqanawa

Izimpawu & Izimpawu

Lezi zizimpawu ezithiwa zikhona kakhulu ezinye izinto ezihambelana nazo nge- impilo ehluth' ekunokwazi ukuhlala nqanawa:

• Ukukhuthaza okukhulu ekunokwazi ukuhlala nqanawa okukhule ngokukhawulezileyo ngexesha lokwakha
• Iinkcukacha zokuziphatha ezinokuba zikhona ngokukhawulezileyo zizizinto ezibunzima okanye ezingaluncedo
• Ungakwazi ukukhuthaza izicelo kakhulu nokuphatha ixesha elide nqanawa — hayi kuba unentsholongwane, kodwa kuba uhlala nqanawa kubonakala kufuneka
• Ukuxoxa ngokwezinto zokhuseleko — ezinye iinkcukacha zokuziphatha, ukuxoxa ngabantu abaninzi, okanye ezinye izinto ezinokuba zibunzima
• Ufuna ukuxoxa ngokwezinto eziphakamileyo kwaye unayo impazamo engakwazi ukuphatha ukuxoxa okungaluncedo
• Uziva ukufuna ixesha elide lokuhlala nqanawa ekukwazi ukufunda ngokwendalo engeyiyo indawo yokuphatha nabanye

Kwenzeka ntoni ngokomoya?

Isisiphiwo sakho sikhulisa isivumelwano sengqondo. Ukuxhumana nabanye — okukhuthaza ukukhuthaza isimo sakho okanye ukuxhumana ngenkqubo engeyiyo eyakukhuthaza — kubalulekile ngexesha lokwakha. Isisiphiwo sakho sikhuthaza ukufunda ngokwendalo engeyiyo indawo yokuphatha nabanye kuba ukufunda ngokwendalo kuyinto ekufuneka. Ukukhuthaza ekunokwazi ukuhlala nqanawa kuyinto eyenziwa ngenjongo ezifanelekileyo. Yona iyisimo esifanayo nokuphumla ngexesha lokuhlala — awukho ukuhluleka ekupheleni kwakho, kodwa wenza into ekufuneka ekupheleni kwakho, kwaye eyona into iyakwazi ukwenza indawo ekukwazi ukufunda ngokwendalo engeyiyo indawo yokuphatha nabanye. Ukufuna ukuxoxa ngokwezinto eziphakamileyo kubonakala ekushintshweni kwakho kokuziphatha ekukhuthaza ukufuna ukunokwazi ukuhlala nqanawa.

Njani ukuhamba ngalokhu?

Hlonipha ukufuna ukuhlala nqanawa ngaphandle kokuba uhlale nqanawa ngani. Xoxa nabantu abakufunayo — yenza bakwazi ukuba ukuya ngokukhuthaza isimo sakho esingundozo kwaye ufuna ixesha elide okanye hayi kuba awakuthandi kancinci kodwa kuba wenza into ekufuneka ekupheleni kwakho. Hlala nokuphatha ixesha elincinci lokuxhumana nabanye ekukhuthaza ukungahlali ngani. Funa abantu abayenzayo izinto ezifanayo — izizwe zokuziphatha, iigama zokuhlola, okanye even ezinye iiforamu zokwakha. Xa ukuziphatha nabanye, khetha ukukhuthaza okukhuthaza kwaye ungalibali ukukhuthaza ixesha elide. Ukufuna ukukhuthaza ekunokwazi ukuhlala nqanawa kuyakwazi ukulungisa ngexesha eliqhubekayo.