Ukucima Isibindi Emva Kokuphela Kwengqondo
Ukuxhumana kwengqondo okukhoyo ekuxhameleni kwabantu ababili abaninzi abakwazi ukuthabatha. Ngexesha loluxhumano, izibindi zomziwa zibhekana, zihlangana, kwaye ngezinye iwadi zibhekana kancinci. Xa uhluleka ukuhlala naye, leyo nto yezibindi ayikho ekupheleni ngokupheleleyo. Ungakuthetha izinto ezingaphezu kwakho ezakho, izikozo zokukhathazeka, izibindi zokukhuthaza kwakho — ezi zinto zingakho ezibindini zakho emva kokuphela kokuxhumana. Ngoko ke, le nto ikhuthaza ukuba ukuphumla kokuphela kungaba nzima, ngakho nangona isigqibo sokuphela kokuxhumana sibe lula. Ukucima isibindi emva kokuphela kokuxhumana kukusebenzisa indlela yokwahlukana kwakho nezibindi zakho nezakho, ukuphinda-ngqina izinto zakho ezazihlangana nazo, kwaye ukuphucula ubunzima kwayo nezibindi zakho. Zilungisa ukuthutha kwengqondo, zikunceda ukuzuzisa ukuzazi kwakho, kwaye zikulungisa ukuba izibindi zakho zibe lula ukuzama ukuhlangana nabantu abaninzi abanokuthi abe ngabantu abanokuthi.
Izimpawu & Amasiko okukhangela kuzo
Ukubona izimpawu ezithile ezihambelana nazo ukucima isibindi emva kokuphela kwengqondo yinkqubo yokuqala ekukhuthazeni ekukhuthaza isixhobo esingcolileyo. Lezi zimpawu zivela kakhulu kubantu abanxulumene nalesi sizathu:
- Uziva ukuthi ungenakwazi ukuzazi — awazi ukuthi yintoni ozifuna, oziva, okanye ozicabanga ngaphandle kokuxhumana
- Izinto ezibonakalayo kwisandla sakho okanye ekhathalweni yakho ezithi zikhangele ngaphandle kokuphelisa isigqibo sakho
- Unqula ngokungabazi izimvo, izithethe, okanye izikozo zakho ex partner wakho ngaphandle kokuba zibe yintoni ozifuna
- Izinto ezitsha zikhupha ezimweni ezithi zihambelane nezimvo zakho ngaphandle kokuxhumana
- Uziva ukuba ungenakwazi ukuphumla emva kokuphela kokuxhumana ngakho nangona isigqibo sakho sathi akukho lula
- Izibindi zakho zibonakala zingekho — abahlobo bakho bathi ubonakala njengomntu ohluleka, okanye onguye ngaphandle kokuxhumana
Ndingakwazi ukwenza ntoni
Qala ukucima isibindi sakho ngokusebenzisa ukuhlamba ngamanzi asinye, okanye iinyaniso ezimbalwa zokhuni, kwaye uhlamba ngengqondo yakho emva kokuphela kokuxhumana. Emva kokuhlamba, hlala kwicala elivulekile okanye phandle, usebenzisa izandla zakho ukuhlukisa izibindi ezingaphezu kwakho, zihluleke emhlabeni. Qalisa ikandili elibomvu, kwaye uthethe ngokuthi yintoni ozifumana — ukuzikhethela, ukuzikhuthaza, ukuzonwabisa. Ziphinde zihlamba ngani emva kokuphela kokuxhumana okhulu, ukuze uhluleke ukuthi ungubani ngaphandle kokuxhumana. Bhala ngezinto ozifuna ngaphandle kokuxhumana ukuze uhluleke ukuba yintoni ozifumana.
Nini ukuze uthole uncedo olwaziweyo lweNkolo
Xa iminyaka eminye iphelile kwaye ungenakwazi ukuphumla — xa izibindi zakho zibheda, xa izimvo zakho ngokuxhumana nezakho zikhangele ngokukhawuleza, okanye xa ubona ukuba uhlangana nabantu abaninzi abaninzi abaninzi abaninzi — umthandazi okanye umxhasi wokuziphatha ngokwezinto zangaphandle akunceda ukubona izizathu ezingaphezu kwakho. Akunceda ukubona izinto ezingaphezu kwakho, kwaye akunceda ukucima izinto ezingaphezu kwakho.
Xelela Umthandazeli weNkolo
Umthandazeli oqeqeshelweyo anokuhlola isithunzi sakho, ukubona isizathu esithile esivela kuso okukhuthaza, kunye nokunika inkcazelo ephantsiweyo ekufanele uenzeyo.
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Ukucima Isibindi Emva Kokuphela Kwengqondo
Izimpawu ezivulekileyo
6 izimpawu ezithatyathwe
Ukuthathwa kwakho
Ukukhusela nkolo & Isithunzi
Izimpawu ezibalulekileyo
- 1.Uziva ukuthi ungenakwazi ukuzazi — awazi ukuthi yintoni ozifuna, oziva, okanye ozicabanga ngaphandle kokuxhumana
- 2.Izinto ezibonakalayo kwisandla sakho okanye ekhathalweni yakho ezithi zikhangele ngaphandle kokuphelisa isigqibo sakho
- 3.Unqula ngokungabazi izimvo, izithethe, okanye izikozo zakho ex partner wakho ngaphandle kokuba zibe yintoni ozifuna
- 4.Izinto ezitsha zikhupha ezimweni ezithi zihambelane nezimvo zakho ngaphandle kokuxhumana
- 5.Uziva ukuba ungenakwazi ukuphumla emva kokuphela kokuxhumana ngakho nangona isigqibo sakho sathi akukho lula
- 6.Izibindi zakho zibonakala zingekho — abahlobo bakho bathi ubonakala njengomntu ohluleka, okanye onguye ngaphandle kokuxhumana
Fumana ukuhambelana kokuziphatha okunxulumene nokholo
Umphathizi wokuziphatha oqeqeshelwe okanye umphathizi wokuziphatha oqeqeshelwe ungathobela indawo yakho ngokupheleleyo — ekuhloliseni enanzi yakho, ekubhaliseni izizathu zokungenelela, kwaye ekuncediseni ekusebenzeni kwakho kokuzikhusela.