Ukunyanga engozi yakho njengomntu othatha izimvo zabanye
Abantu abathatha izimvo zabanye (empaths) bathi izizwe nezoqoqosho zokuziphatha zilula kakhulu kunabanye — bayazithatha izimvo nezoqoqosho zabanye njengokuba abantu abanye bathi izimvo zokhanyo ezulu. Oku nguye umsebenzi wokholo. Ukwazi ukuthi abanye bathini abantu bakho kuhloniphe indlela ekhuthaza ukuhlonipha, ukudala, kunye nokwazi ukubona ngokomoya. Nangona kunjalo, uma ungalindeleki ngokwaneleyo, ukuhluleka kokwazi ukukhusela engozi yakho kuyakuba yinto engenawo impumelelo: izindawo eziphakamileyo, ukuhlangana nokuphatha abantu abavunyelweyo, kunye nokuva iinkcukacha zoluntu zokuziphatha zikho kungenza ukuba uhlupheke ngokomzimba kunye nokuziphatha. Inzuzo ekhuthaza abantu abathatha izimvo zabanye kukufunda ukukhusela engozi yakho ngokukhuthaza ukungabikho kwengqondo, kodwa ekukhusela engozi yakho ngokukhuthaza ukungabikho kwengqondo. Oku akukho into ekwenzeka ngokukhuthaza; yinto ekhuthaza ngokusebenzisa iimpembelelo ezihambelana neentsuku ezininzi, kunye nokuphinda-phinda ukwazi ukwenza ukuthi uhloniphe izimvo zokuziphatha zokuziphatha zokuziphatha zokuziphatha zokuziphatha zokuziphatha.
Izimpawu & Amasiko okukhangela kuzo
Ukubona izimpawu ezithile ezihambelana nazo ukunyanga engozi yakho njengomntu othatha izimvo zabanye yinkqubo yokuqala ekukhuthazeni ekukhuthaza isixhobo esingcolileyo. Lezi zimpawu zivela kakhulu kubantu abanxulumene nalesi sizathu:
- Ukungakhathali ngokomzimba, ukungathandeki kwengqondo, okanye ukukhula kokukhathaza kwakho ezindawo eziphakamileyo njengezitolo, ezakhiweni, okanye imicimbi yezizwe
- Ukuthatha izimvo zendawo ohlangene nawo emizuzwini emihlanu emva kokungena, ngaphandle kokwazi ukwenza oku
- Ukukhathazeka ekukwazi ukukhuthaza izimvo zakho kuphela kubantu abazizwile okanye abakwazi ukuxhumana nabo
- Ukungakhathali ngokukhuthaza iinkcukacha zoluntu, iimeyile ezithile, okanye iinkcukacha zokuziphatha ezihambelana nezimvo ezintle
- Ukudinga isikhathi esingakumbi sokuhlala nzima emva kokuxhumana nabantu abanye abakwazi ukwenza oku njengokuba abanye bathi
- Izimvo zokuziphatha ezihambelana nezimvo zokukhathaza, ukudabuka, okanye ukukhathazeka kwabanye njengokuba zikho kwakho
Ndingakwazi ukwenza ntoni
Funda ukwenza ukuhlanganisa engozi yakho ngokuhambelana neentsuku. Ekuseni, emva kokukhuthaza (izinyawo eziphantsi, ukuphefumla okuthe ngokupheleleyo okuthathu), zama ukubona isikhumba esibomvu okanye esibomvu okanye esibomvu esibomvu esibomvu esibomvu esibomvu. Zama ukukhuthaza ukuthi le nkqubo ikuvumela ukuhlonipha ukuhlonipha kunye nokuxhumana, kodwa ikhuphe izimvo zokuziphatha kunye nezimvo zokuziphatha ezizayo emva kwazo, zibekwe ngokukhuthaza. Faka iilabradorite, iitourmaline ezibomvu, okanye iobsidian. Uma uzwana ukuthi engozi yakho iyaphethwa — okubonakaliswa njengezantsi zokukhathazeka, ukungakhathali, okanye izimvo zokuziphatha ezingekho kwakho — hluleka ukuhlala nzima, zama ukuthi uhlangane nezinto ezikhuthaza ukukhuthaza, futhi uqale ngokuphefumla. Funda ukubiza engozi ekufuneka: 'Oku akukho kwakho' yisiganeko esinika amandla aphazamise ukuthatha engozi ngaphambi kokuba ikhuthazwe. Isikhathi esingakumbi ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye ekhaya okanye
Nini ukuze uthole uncedo olwaziweyo lweNkolo
Uma ukungakhathali kwakho kwenziwa yinto engenawo impumelelo ekupheleni kwakho — uma ungalikwazi ukwazi ukusebenza, ukukhuthaza ukuhlangana nabantu, okanye ukuhlala ekhaya ngaphandle kokukhathazeka okukhulu — kufuneka ukuthatha uncedo lwezinto eziphakamileyo zokuziphatha. Umntu onexpérience ekukhuthaza izimvo zokuziphatha, okanye umntu othi enza oku njengakhe, angafumana ukubona izakhiwo ezithile zokuziphatha zakho, ahluleke ekukhusela engozi yakho, futhi akwazi ukwenza iimpembelelo ezithile. Oku nguye indawo apho ukufumana iinkcukacha zokuziphatha zikho ekukwazi ukukhuthaza ukukhuthaza okanye ukukhathazeka, okanye izinto ezithile ezithile ezithile.
Xelela Umthandazeli weNkolo
Umthandazeli oqeqeshelweyo anokuhlola isithunzi sakho, ukubona isizathu esithile esivela kuso okukhuthaza, kunye nokunika inkcazelo ephantsiweyo ekufanele uenzeyo.
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Ukunyanga engozi yakho njengomntu othatha izimvo zabanye
Izimpawu ezivulekileyo
6 izimpawu ezithatyathwe
Ukuthathwa kwakho
Ukukhusela nkolo & Isithunzi
Izimpawu ezibalulekileyo
- 1.Ukungakhathali ngokomzimba, ukungathandeki kwengqondo, okanye ukukhula kokukhathaza kwakho ezindawo eziphakamileyo njengezitolo, ezakhiweni, okanye imicimbi yezizwe
- 2.Ukuthatha izimvo zendawo ohlangene nawo emizuzwini emihlanu emva kokungena, ngaphandle kokwazi ukwenza oku
- 3.Ukukhathazeka ekukwazi ukukhuthaza izimvo zakho kuphela kubantu abazizwile okanye abakwazi ukuxhumana nabo
- 4.Ukungakhathali ngokukhuthaza iinkcukacha zoluntu, iimeyile ezithile, okanye iinkcukacha zokuziphatha ezihambelana nezimvo ezintle
- 5.Ukudinga isikhathi esingakumbi sokuhlala nzima emva kokuxhumana nabantu abanye abakwazi ukwenza oku njengokuba abanye bathi
- 6.Izimvo zokuziphatha ezihambelana nezimvo zokukhathaza, ukudabuka, okanye ukukhathazeka kwabanye njengokuba zikho kwakho
Fumana ukuhambelana kokuziphatha okunxulumene nokholo
Umphathizi wokuziphatha oqeqeshelwe okanye umphathizi wokuziphatha oqeqeshelwe ungathobela indawo yakho ngokupheleleyo — ekuhloliseni enanzi yakho, ekubhaliseni izizathu zokungenelela, kwaye ekuncediseni ekusebenzeni kwakho kokuzikhusela.