Isethulo
Konke ubudlelwano obubalulekile obakhayo bakha intambo yamandla — umzila wamandla oxhuma indawo yakho nendawo yomunye umuntu, okuvumela ukushintshana kwamandla omzwelo, engqondo, ngisho nawomzimba phakathi kwenu. Izintambo ezinempilo zilinganiselwe, zondla ngokufanayo, futhi zigeleza zombili izindlela. Kodwa izintambo eziningi ziba yingozi: izikhukhula eziqondiswa ohlangothini olulodwa lapho amandla akho ondla izidingo zomunye umuntu ngaphandle kokubuyiselwa, ukunamathisela okuyingozi okukugcina uboshelwe ngokomzwelo kumuntu isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuba ubudlelwano kufanele ngabe buphelile, noma izibopho zokuhlukumezeka ezidlulisela ubuhlungu, ukukhathazeka, nokungasebenzi kahle ngomzila wamandla. Lezi zintambo azincibiliki ngokuzenzakalelayo lapho ubudlelwano buphela. Zihlala emzimbeni wamandla unomphela, yingakho usengakwazi ukuzizwa usabela ngokomzwelo kumlingani wangaphambili eminyakeni eminingi ngemuva kokuhlukana, yingakho ukugxeka komzali kusengakwazi ukukubhidliza uneminyaka engamashumi amane nanhlanu, futhi yingakho ukunqamula ukuxhumana nomuntu oyingozi kungahlali kukhiqiza ukukhululeka ngokomzwelo obukulindele. Intambo ihlala, idlulisa amandla ngezindlela zombili, igcina ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo kuphila ezingeni elijulile kunomcabango noma inkumbulo. Ukusika intambo yamandla kuwumkhuba wokuqeda ngamabomu lezi zixhumanisi zamandla ezingalungile ukuze ubuyisele indawo yakho yamandla esimweni sayo esizimele, esizimele. Akususi inkumbulo noma kubhubhisi uthando — kususa umzila ongabonakali lapho amandla omunye umuntu eqhubeka nokugeleza ohlelweni lwakho engamenyiwe.
Izimpawu & Amasosho
- Ukuzwela ngokomzwelo okuqhubekayo kumuntu othile ongasasekho empilweni yakho — ukucabanga ngabo kubangela ukudabuka okungalingani, intukuthelo, ukulangazelela, noma ukukhathazeka okungapheli ngesikhathi, ibanga, noma ukucubungula okunengqondo
- Ukuzizwa ukhathele ngemuva kokuxhumana nomuntu othile, ngisho nokufushane noma okubonakala kungenangozi — ungena engxoxweni uzizwa kahle bese uphuma uzizwa ukhathele, njengokungathi ibhethri lakho liphelile ngokomzimba
- Ubunzima bokuqhubeka nobuhlobo naphezu kokwenza isinqumo esiqondile sokwenza kanjalo — usuwenzile ukwelashwa, usucubungule usizi, uyaqonda ngokwengqondo ukuthi kungani kwadingeka kuphele, kodwa kukhona okukudonsela emuva ngokomzwelo
- Ukuthatha izindlela zokuziphatha, izindlela zokucabanga, noma izimo zemizwa ezingezomunye umuntu — uziqaphela uziphatha njengomuntu wakho wangaphambili, ucabanga njengomama wakho, noma uzizwa ukhathazeka ongakwazi ukukuhlobanisa nomuntu othile kunokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho
- Izimpawu zomzimba ezivela ngokuqondile ngokuhlobana nomuntu othile — ikhanda ngaphambi kokubabona, ubuhlungu besisu lapho ucabanga ngabo, ukuqina kwesifuba lapho bekuxhumana nawe — okusikisela ukuxhumana kwamandla okudlula ingqondo futhi kusebenza ngqo emzimbeni
Indlela Yokwelapha
Ukusika intambo kuqala ngokukhomba — ukuqaphela ukuthi yiziphi izintambo ezikhona nokuthi yiziphi ezinempilo uma ziqhathaniswa neziyingozi. Lokhu kuvame ukudinga usizo lwangaphandle ngoba izintambo ezingalungile zizwakala zijwayelekile kumuntu ozithwele; seziyingxenye yendawo yakho yamandla isikhathi eside kangangokuba awukwazi ukuzihlukanisa namandla akho. Ukusika intambo okuqondiswa nguwe kubandakanya ukubona ngeso lengqondo: ukucabanga intambo ekuxhuma nomunye umuntu, ukuyibona ngokucacile, bese uyisika ngethuluzi elicatshangwayo — isikere, inkemba, ilangabi — ngenkathi ubeka inhloso yokuthi kuphela izixhumanisi zamandla ezingalungile ezisikwe. Ukusika intambo okwenziwa uchwepheshe ngumelaphi wamandla kunemininingwane eminingi ngoba umelaphi angabona izintambo ongakwazi ukuzibona futhi angakwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukusika kuphelele nokuthi inxeba endaweni yakho yamandla livalwe ngemuva kwalokho. Ukuzinakekela ngemuva kokusika kubalulekile: indawo lapho intambo inamathele khona idinga ukugcwaliswa ngamandla akho ukuze kuvinjelwe ukunamathisela kabusha.
Ukufundela okukhuthazwa
Umfundi wengqondo noma umelaphi wamandla ungumsebenzi osebenza kahle kakhulu emsebenzini wokusika intambo ngoba angabona izintambo ngokuqondile — indawo yazo endaweni yakho yamandla, ukuthi zinamathisela kuphi i-chakra, ukuthi ubani ongakolunye uhlangothi, nokuthi intambo iyakhukhula, ayithathi hlangothi, noma iyondla. Iseshini yokwelapha amandla e-inthanethi ingahlanganisa kokubili ukuhlolwa kokuxilonga nokusika ngokwako, okwenza kube ngolunye lwezinhlobo zomsebenzi wengqondo oguquguqukayo kakhulu okhona. Umfundi angakwazi futhi ukukutshela ukuthi intambo ingeyempilo yamanje kuphela noma iphethe ingxenye ye-karmic evela ekuxhumaneni kwempilo edlule, okuthinta indlela ukusika okwenziwa ngayo.