Kutheni lomdwebo?
Uhlezi egumbini lokuhlola. Iphepha libekwe phambi kwakho. Uyavula futhi uqaphele ukuthi awazi lutho — uphuthelwe yizo zonke izinkulumo, weqe incwadi yokufunda, ukhohlwe ukuthi ukuhlolwa bekunganamuhla. Ukwethuka kugcwala emzimbeni wakho. Iwashi liyahamba. Wonke umuntu okuzungezile ubhala ngokuzethemba ngenkathi ubuka imibuzo okungenzeka ukuthi ibhalwe ngolimi lwangaphandle. Leli phupho liyaqhubeka emashumini eminyaka ngemva kokuphela kwemfundo esemthethweni. Abantu abaneminyaka engamashumi ayisithupha abathatha umhlalaphansi eminyakeni edlule basabika amaphupho okukhathazeka ngokuhlolwa njalo. Iphupho alihlangene nesikole. Lisebenzisa isimo sekilasi ngoba liyisifaniso esifinyeleleka kalula emhlabeni wonke sokuhlolwa, ukulinganiswa, nokutholakala unganele. Iphupho lokuhlolwa livela lapho uzizwa ungalungiselele inselele empilweni yakho yangempela — inhlolokhono yomsebenzi, ingxoxo enzima, ukubalwa kwezimali, ukukhathazeka ngezempilo — futhi usola ukuthi lapho isikhathi sokubalwa sifika, uzodalulwa njengongenakwenza. Ngaphansi kokukhathazeka okungaphezulu mayelana nokuhlolwa uqobo kukhona ukwesaba okujulile: ukuqiniseka ukuthi awulungile ngokuyisisekelo nokuthi ekugcineni wonke umuntu uzokuthola lokhu. Iphupho lokuhlolwa yinguqulo yengqondo ye-imposter syndrome, eyenziwe ngomfutho wemizwa amaphupho kuphela angawukhiqiza.
Izindlela ezihlukahlukene
- Ukufika sekwephuzile ekuhlolweni nokuthola igumbi cishe lingenalutho, nesikhathi cishe siphelile, kugcizelela umuzwa wokuthi uchithe ithuba lakho. Ube nethuba elifanayo nabo bonke abanye futhi ulichithile ngokuhlehlisa, ukuphazamiseka, noma izinto ezibalulekile ezibekwe endaweni engafanele. Le nguqulo ivamile ngezikhathi lapho uzizwa ukuthi abanye bayathuthuka ngenkathi wena uhlezi endaweni eyodwa.
- Ukuthatha ukuhlolwa kodwa imibuzo iyaqhubeka ishintsha noma iphepha libhalwe ngombhalo ongafundeki kumelela isimo empilweni yakho yangempela lapho imithetho iyaqhubeka ishintsha. Uzilungiselele inselele eyodwa kwavela enye ehlukile. Awukwazi ukuphumelela ngoba imibandela yokuphumelela ayizinzile, ayicacile, noma ishintshwa ngomunye umuntu. Leli phupho likhomba izindawo — izindawo zokusebenza, ubudlelwano, izinhlelo zomndeni — lapho imigomo ihamba njalo.
- Ukwazi okokufunda kodwa ungakwazi ukubhala — ipeni alisebenzi, isandla sakho sikhubazekile, ishidi lezimpendulo liyaqhubeka lindiza — kukhombisa ukuthi unalo ulwazi nekhono kodwa kukhona okukuvimbela ukuba ukubonise. Isithiyo akusona ukungakwazi kodwa isithiyo sangaphandle noma sangaphakathi: ukukhathazeka ngokusebenza, indawo enobutha, ukuzilimaza, noma uhlelo olungakuvumeli ukuba ubonise lokho ongakwenza ngempela.
- Ukuthola ukuthi ubhaliswe ekilasini ongakaze uye kulo futhi kufanele uphumelele ukuhlolwa kwalo kokugcina kubonisa umthwalo wemfanelo owukhohliwe noma owugwemile manje osufike emkhawulweni. Lokhu kungaba isibopho sezimali, ingxoxo yobudlelwano obuyihlehlisayo, ukuqokwa kwezempilo obukukhanselayo, noma imfuneko yokuthuthukisa ubungcweti obuyizibayo.
- Ukuphumelela ukuhlolwa kalula naphezu kokungazilungiselelanga kuyiphupho lokugcwaliseka kwesifiso elivela lapho usuzobhekana nenselele ezoba lula kunalokho obukwesaba. Ingqondo yakho engaphansi, ebilokhu icubungula ulwazi ingqondo yakho eziqaphelayo eyayiphuthelwe, ikutshela ukuthi ulungiselele kakhulu kunalokho ocabangayo. Yithembe.
Okuhungisiwe okuthunyelwa
Umfundi we-psychic uya ngaphansi kokukhathazeka kwamaphupho okuhlolwa ukuze akhombe isivivinyo sangempela ingqondo yakho engaphansi eyicubungulayo. Ngokuvamile, iphupho alimayelana nenselele esobala ezayo kodwa limayelana nephuzu lokuhlola elijulile, elingaziwa — ukuhlolwa komphefumulo wamanani akho, ubuqotho, noma indlela yempilo. I-psychic ingaphinde idalule ukuthi ngabe iphethini yephupho lokuhlolwa ixhuma kokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo edlule ngokwahlulela, ukuhlazeka emphakathini, noma ukwehluleka okushiya umkhondo ojulile emuzweni womphefumulo wakho wokufaneleka. Ukuphulukisa isilonda sempilo edlule kuvame ukuxazulula iphupho eliphindaphindayo ngokuphelele.
Okudinga ukwenziwa okulandelayo
Lapho iphupho lokuhlolwa liphindaphinda, kufanelekile ukulithatha ngokungathi sína njengesibonakaliso kunokulilahla njengokukhathazeka kwesikole okusele. Yenza uhlu lwayo yonke indawo empilweni yakho yangempela lapho uzizwa uhlolwa, uvivinywa, noma usengozini yokudalulwa njengonganele. Khomba lowo ophethe umthwalo omkhulu wemizwa. Bese uletha lokhu kumfundi wamaphupho we-psychic oku-inthanethi ongakwazi ukuqinisekisa umthombo weqiniso wephupho futhi anikeze isiqondiso sokuthi ungayisondela kanjani inselele yangempela ngokuzethemba kunokwesaba — okuhlanganisa nokubhekana nanoma yimaphi amaphethini empilo edlule okwahlulela angase akhulise ukukhathazeka kwakho kwamanje.