Ukudlula
I-psychology ejwayelekile ichaza izifo ezethusayo ngokusebenzisa ukuzivumelanisa: okuhlangenwe nakho okwesabisayo ebuntwaneni kudala indlela yezinzwa eguquka ibe ukwesaba okuhlala njalo. Kodwa abanye abantu baphethe izifo ezethusayo ezinamandla, ezingenangqondo ukuthi akukho nani lomlando womuntu elingakwazi ukuchaza. Ukwesaba amanzi okubi kakhulu kangangokuthi kuvimbela ukugeza, nokho akukho mcimbi wokucishe uminze okhona enkumbulweni. Ukwesaba umlilo okwenza iphunga lomdlalo lingabekezeleleki, ngaphandle komlilo wendlu emlandweni womndeni. Ukwesaba ukuphakama okukhiqiza ukwethuka kwangempela efasiteleni lesibili, naphezu kokungawi ebuntwaneni. Lapho amathuluzi okwelapha ajwayelekile ehluleka ukuthola umsuka wesifo esethusayo, incazelo ingase ilele empilweni edlule. Ukufa okubuhlungu kushiya uphawu olujulile emphefumulweni. Uma uminze, washiswa, noma wawela ekufeni empilweni edlule, uhlelo lokusinda lomzimba lungase luthwale leyo nkumbulo phambili njengesignali ye-alamu engenangqondo emzimbeni ongakaze uhlangabezane nalolo songo mathupha.
Ukufundisa okukhuthaza ekhaya
Umphefumulo uqopha okuhlangenwe nakho ngamandla athile ngezikhathi zosongo olukhulu noma ukufa. Lezi zirekhodi ziya phambili hhayi njengezinkumbulo ezicacile kodwa njengezignesha zamandla ezishumekwe emzimbeni ocashile. Empilweni entsha, lapho uhlelo lwezinzwa luhlangabezana nezikhuthazo ezihambisana nalolo lwazi lokufa — amanzi, ukuphakama, umlilo, izindawo ezivaliwe — kubangela impendulo yokwesaba elinganiselwe ku-trauma yokuqala esikhundleni sezimo zamanje. Lokhu wumzamo womphefumulo wokuvikela umzimba engozini ewukhumbulayo ezimpilweni eziningi. Isifo esethusayo asiyona into engenangqondo ngokombono womphefumulo; isebenza ngolwazi oluvela empilweni engalungile.
Indima yomuntu ozwa ngokuthi ungakwazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukuthi.
Ukubuyela emuva empilweni edlule okusizwa ngumfundi wengqondo onekhono kungakwazi ukukhipha inkumbulo ethile exhunywe esifweni esethusayo, okukuvumela ukuba ucubungule futhi ubeke umongo wayo njengokungekawo omunye umzimba nesikhathi. Uma umsuka usukhonjiwe futhi icala elingokomzwelo likhishiwe ngokuvuma okungokwazi, isifo esethusayo ngokuvamile silahlekelwa ingxenye enkulu yokuqina kwaso ngoba isignali yosongo ifakwe ngendlela efanele njengomlando esikhundleni sokuba yeyamanje.