Kutheni lomdwebo?
Amaphupho okuwa aphakathi kokuhlangenwe nakho kwamaphupho okubikwa kakhulu emhlabeni wonke, futhi cishe ahlala ehlaba umphuphi evuka ngempendulo yokushaqeka ngokomzimba. Umuzwa ungowangaphakathi — isisu siwa, izitho ziyanyakaza, umoya uyaphuma. Kodwa amaphupho okuwa awahambisani nengozi engokomzimba. Ayindlela yengqondo engaphansi kwengqondo yokubonisa ukulahlekelwa ukulawula, ukuphepha, noma isisekelo endaweni ethile yempilo yakho ephapheme. Into owa kuyo ibaluleke njengokuwa ngokwako. Ukuwa esakhiweni kuvame ukuhambisana nokukhathazeka ngomsebenzi noma isimo senhlalo. Ukuwa eweni kuxhuma esinqumweni esikhulu lapho uzizwa ukuthi usudlule iphuzu lokungabuyeli emuva. Ukuwa esikhaleni esingenalutho ngaphandle kwamaphuzu okubhekisela kusikisela ukungabi nasisekelo sokuba khona — awazi ukuthi umi kuphi empilweni njengamanje futhi awukwazi ukuziqondisa. Isivinini sokuwa sihambisana nokuthi umuzwa wakho wokuphepha uwohloka ngokushesha kangakanani. Ukwehla kancane, okuntantayo kusikisela ukuguguleka kancane kokuzethemba. Ukuwa okungazelelwe kukhombisa ukushaqeka — kukhona okukhishwe ngaphansi kwakho ngaphandle kwesixwayiso. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ufika yini, futhi kanjani. Amaphupho lapho uwa khona futhi ushaya phansi awavamile ngendlela emangalisayo. Abaningi abaphuphayo bavuka ngaphambi kokushayisana, okubonisa ukwenqaba kwengqondo ukubhekana ngokugcwele nomphumela owesabayo.
Izindlela ezihlukahlukene
- Ukuwa esakhiweni eside kuvame ukuhambisana nokwesaba ubunikazi bomsebenzi noma benhlalo. Isakhiwo simelela okuthile okwakhe — umsebenzi, idumela, ubudlelwano — futhi ukuwa kumelela ukwesaba ukukubona kuwa. Leli phupho livame ukuvela ngezikhathi zokungaqiniseki emsebenzini, ukwehluleka obala, noma lapho usola ukuthi okuthile okutshale iminyaka kukho akuzinzile njengoba kubonakala.
- Ukuwa eweni noma emkhawulweni wentaba kuvame ukuvela lapho usenze noma usuzokwenza isinqumo esingenakuhlehliswa. Iwa limelela umngcele phakathi kwempilo yakho eyaziwayo nendawo engaziwa. Ukuwa akuyona isijeziso — ukudideka kokuzibophezela. Abantu bavame ukuphupha lokhu ngaphambi kokwamukela umsebenzi, ukuqeda umshado, ukuthuthela kwelinye izwe, noma yikuphi ukukhetha lapho kungekho ukubuyela emuva ezintweni ezazinjalo.
- Ukukhubeka nokuwa ngenkathi uhamba noma ugijima kusikisela ukuthi okuthile ohlelweni lwakho lwansuku zonke kuzokudicilela phansi — iphutha elincane emsebenzini, ukungaqondani ebudlelwaneni, imininingwane engabonwa. Ukukhubeka kuncane kodwa ukukhathazeka akulingani, okukutshela ukuthi ukwesaba kwangempela akuhambisani nohambo ngokwalo kodwa ngamakhono nokwethembeka okubonisa emhlabeni okudalulwa njengokungaphelele.
- Ukuwa esikhaleni esingenalutho noma emgodini omnyama ngaphandle komhlabathi obonakalayo kukhombisa ukukhathazeka okujulile kokuba khona mayelana nobunikazi nenjongo. Akukho ongabamba kukho ngoba ulahlekelwe — noma ungakaze usungule ngokugcwele — umuzwa wakho wokuthi ungubani nokuthi wenzani lapha. Leli phupho livame ngezikhathi zokuvuka ngokomoya, izinkinga zempilo ephakathi, nangemva kokushona komuntu obalulekile kubunikazi bakho.
- Ukubuka omunye umuntu ewa ngenkathi wena umi ngokuphepha phezulu kudalula icala lokungakwazi ukuvimbela ukwehla komunye umuntu — umzali okhulayo, umngane owenza izinqumo ezilimazayo, ingane elwa. Ukungakwazi kwakho ukusiza kuyisisekelo somzwelo wephupho. Awukho engozini, kodwa ukungabi namandla kokubona ukuwa komunye umuntu kudala uhlobo lwayo lokuhlupheka ngokwengqondo.
Okuhungisiwe okuthunyelwa
Ngenkathi i-psychology ichaza amaphupho okuwa njengezimpawu zokukhathazeka, umfundi wengqondo ufinyelela ungqimba lwamandla olungaphansi kokukhathazeka ukuze ahlonze umthombo walo wangempela. Ngokuvamile, amaphupho okuwa aphindaphindayo ezinyangeni noma eminyakeni awashayelwa izimo zamanje kuphela — athwala uphawu lwamandla oluvela esigamekweni sempilo edlule, isivumelwano somphefumulo esibandakanya ukuwa emseni noma emandleni, noma iphethini lokungazinzi lokhokho olilifele ngamandla. Umfundi wengqondo angakwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwephupho lokuwa elishayelwa ukucindezeleka kwakho komsebenzi wamanje neliphinda iphethini elidala kakhulu umphefumulo wakho osalokhu uzama ukulixazulula.
Okudinga ukwenziwa okulandelayo
Lapho uvuka ephupheni lokuwa, melana nesifiso sokulichitha njengokucindezeleka okungenanjongo. Kunalokho, zibuze ngokwethembeka: kuphi empilweni yami lapho ngizwa sengathi umhlabathi uyanyamalala? Bhala phansi izimo ezithile — ezezimali, ezobudlelwano, ezomsebenzi, ezingokomoya — lapho ukuphepha kwakho kuzizwa kusongelwa. Letha lawa manothi ekufundeni okungokwengqondo ku-inthanethi futhi uvumele umfundi wengqondo akusize uhlonze ukuthi ukuwa kubonisa ukwesaba kwamanje, isiqephu sempilo edlule, noma isixwayiso esinembile ngento ongakayiqapheli ngokwazi.