Ngokuthi uhluleka ukuhlangana
Okungaba khona okungaphelele ekuthakaseleni kokuzwakala ngokomoya kuyisidingo esibuhlungu kakhulu ukuthi uhluleka ukuhlangana. Izinto ozizwa nezona ozibona — ukuzwa izinto, ukubona amandla, ukwazi izinto ozidinga ukwazi, ukwazi imizwa engakho, ukucabangela izinto ezingekho — zingabizwa ngokuthi zizimpawu zokugula ngempilo yengqondo emhlabeni. Lokhu okukhombisa phakathi kokuzwakala ngokomoya nokuphazamiseka kokuzwakala kuyinjalo, akukho okuncane, futhi kufanele kuthathelwe kanzima. Noma kunjalo, kunenhloso ehlukahlukene phakathi kwalezi zinto ezimbili ezingakusiza ekuhlola ukuthi uhlangabezana ngani. Ukukhathazeka ngokuhluleka ukuhlangana ngokwezwe yinto ehlukile ekuthakaseleni, futhi ukubiza ngokuthi yinto ehlukile ngokukhuthaza ukuthi uhlangabeze nayo ngokucophelela.
Izimpawu & Amaphetho
Lezi zizo izimpawu eziphatheleneke kakhulu ezithathelwe ukuthi ngokuthi uhluleka ukuhlangana:
- Ukukhathazeka okungaphelele ukuthi izinto ozizwa zikhombisa ukugula ngempilo yengqondo kunokuthi kube yisikhathi sokukhula ngokomoya
- Ukukhathazeka ngokuthi uma ubhaleka abanye ukuthi uhlangabezana ngani, bayokuthi uhluleka ukuhlangana
- Ukukhathazeka ekwahlulelana phakathi kokuzwakala okwenene nokuphazamiseka kokuzwakala okungadingidwa
- Izinsuku ezithile zokuphepha uma izinto zintsha kakhulu noma ezingaziwa
- Ukufunda ngokuzwakala ngokwezwe yezifo ezithile online futhi ukuthola ukuthi zikhombisa izinto ozizwa
- Ukukhathazeka ngokuzwakala okwenzeka ngoba azihambisani nezindlela ozaziyo zokuzwela
Kwenziwa ngani ekupheleni kokuzulazisa
Uhlangabezana ngani uma uhlangana nokuphazamiseka kokuzwakala. Izizwe zaseNtshonalanga zinolimi oluncane kakhulu lokukhomba izimo ezingekho ngokomhlaba, futhi zihlonza izinto ezingekho ngokomhlaba ngokuthi zizifo. Ukukhathazeka ngokuhluleka ukuhlangana kuyisistimu yokuphawula yego, futhi iyakubona ukuthi isithathwa siphazamiseka futhi iyakuthi isibona njengokungapheli. Nokho, izinto ozizwa ekuthakaseleni ngokomoya nezizwa ezibangelwa izifo zengqondo zihambisana ngokwezimpawu eziphuzu, kodwa zihlukahlukene kakhulu ekukhuthazeni: izizwa zokuthakasela zihambisana nekuphucula kokusebenza, ukukhula kokuzwela, futhi ukukhuthaza ukuzwela ozakho, futhi izifo zengqondo zihambisana nekuphazamiseka kokusebenza, ukukhuthaza ukukhathazeka, futhi ukulahleka kokuzwela ozakho.
Ukuhamba ngalokhu
Thatha ukukhathazeka kanzima kangaka ukuze uthole ukwelulekwa ngomuntu ohloniphekile uma unenkinga ngempilo yengqondo. Bheka umthandazi noma umshini wezifo zengqondo — ngokukhethelela umuntu ozokwazi ukuzwela izinto zokuzwakala ngokomoya — futhi uchaze ukuthi uhlangabezana ngani. Akuyona into yokuzama ukuthola ukuvumelwa; yinto yokuzikhathaza ngokwehluleka. Uma abahlengikazi bezempilo bakuhlolile, ungakwazi ukuqhubeka ngani ngokukhuthaza. Izinto ezibalulekile ozidinga ukuzwa: Ungakwazi ukuphatha izinto zokudla? Ungakwazi ukuhlala nezihlobo? Ukuzwela ozakho kuhluleka noma kuhlanga? Uhlangabezana ngani imizwa yokuzwela noma ukukhathazeka? Ukuthakasela ngokomoya kuhlangisa lezi zinto ngenkathi; izifo zengqondo zihluphisa lezi zinto. Zombili zingakwazi ukuhlangana ngesikhathi esifanayo, futhi zingakwazi ukuhlangana ngani uma unenkinga yokuzikhathaza. Zizinto ezingakahlukani.
Khuluma neNjabulazi Oqonda
Injabulazi ehlangene nokuqonda okwakhe okwethu okuthwasa kuyakuvumela ukuthi ahloniphe izimpawu zakho, athole indawo ohlala kuyo ekupheleni, futhi akuphakamisele ukuhlela okukhuthaza okukhethekile.
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Isihloko
Ngokuthi uhluleka ukuhlangana
Izimpawu ezivuliwe
6 amaphetho atholakele
Ukukhathazeka
Ukuthwasa kokuzulazisa okwezulu
Uhlelo olulandelayo
- Ukukhuthazeka Okusheshayo kokuzwa kokhokho nezindaba
- Ukushintshwa kokuhlela nokwethuka ekuseni nge-3 AM
- Ukungathandi okunzulu okwenzeka ngokushesha ekuthandeni okwakho okade kwakungukuthanda
- Ukuthi izinkinga ezinkulu zingakwazi ukubiza ngaphandle kokuthi zikhuthaze
- Izimpawu Zokuzwa Ngokwezinkolelo Ezingakho
- Questioning Everything You Were Taught to Believe
Thola Uhlelo lokuthwasa okukhethekile
Injabulazi ekholelwa ekuthwaseni kokuzulazisa okwezulu kuyakuvumela ukuthi ahloniphe izinto ezithile ezihambelana nawe futhi akuphakamisele ukuhlela okukhethekile ekupheleni kwakho.